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02-06-2007, 11:06 AM
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3 year old in trouble

i have 3 kids ten 4 and 3 , the first two were very easy going and calm ad sensitive , the third just does what he wants without care of repucussions i knew i would have a hard time with him at school but he has only been at nursery a short time , and has already flooded the nursery twice , by putting paper towels in the sink and letting the taps run.
just wondering how many times i will be called to theheads office , why are kids so different when you raise them the same way i hope as he gets older and we can remove games tvs from him he will start to learn and behave better, he plays with his friends really nice but is awful to his brother...

anyone else whose kids are like chalk and cheese??


     
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02-06-2007, 11:58 AM
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Re: 3 year old in trouble

My 2 are alot older than yours but they both have turned out completely different to each other. My daughter who has left home and has her own house, very self sufficient is a lovely human being, so caring and putting others first. My son who still lives with me is completely at the other end of the scale and is a complete pain in the arse and drives me nuts

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and has already flooded the nursery twice , by putting paper towels in the sink and letting the taps run.
sorry have to laugh brings back memories of what my son use to get up to at school. He once put coffee powder in a kettle in the science block and blew the place up, and tripped all the electric off in the school. The school had to be evacuated and he got suspended yet again


     
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03-06-2007, 01:10 PM
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Sorry, had a little chuckle at that one i only have the one kiddie, a little girl....lily grace, she is only 8 months old but i can tell she is gonna be cheeky....just like her dad!


     
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03-06-2007, 05:25 PM
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You lot are gonna get sick of me... but diet has a lot to do with behaviour. I would cut out any and all junk food, sweets, crisps, soft drinks etc and see how that went for a few weeks. Maybe even tinned/preserved food too, try sticking to natural homemade grub.

I've seen the difference it can make in some kids and originally heard of it through my kinesiologist friend.


     
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03-06-2007, 10:58 PM
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Mines 8 months too, so no junk food and she has started to throw right tantrums when feeding to go to bed, slapping the bottle, pulling my chest hair! I dont know whether she means it at such a young age but blimey it seems like one hell of a paddy.

So from my point of view I hope the next one is differant, but only in that way 'cos shes perfect besides.


     
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04-06-2007, 09:46 AM
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this child has been this bad tempered since birth, i hope as he gets older and punishments can be confescating his best toys , games he will learn and calm down.
But when he was 1.1/2 he had a temper tantrum over a cream egg at easter that i would not let him have and he held his breathe in his paddy until his eyes rolled to the back of his head ,he collapsed and hit the floor and then turned blue. I was calling to him and telling him come on breathe ..but nothing he was gone..for at least 2-3 minutes which felt like a life time.My other half panicked and phoned for an ambulance..but i could not just leave him there i had to do something, i was looking at what resembled a dead child , and i know after 7 minutes brain damage can kick in..so i raced outside with him in my arms as it was cold outside, he slowly came around ..it took him a further 10 minutes to remember where he was or who i was.
The ambulance turned up and gave him some oxygen and took him to be checked out .
The doctor said "not to worry this is very common in children and can happen all the time..just leave him and he will come out of it eventually"
This i am not pleased with as what happens while i am waiting wasting time for him to come back to me and it does not happen ...then i have lost valuable time getting him help.

i have since asked on the parents forum i am on and got loads of advice from parents who have kids that do, this to blow in their face or splash cold water on them . Which is why i hink the cold air outside stimulated him back.

What it does mean is every time he has a big paddy everyone is on edge waiting to see what is gonna come next


     
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04-06-2007, 04:01 PM
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My 10 year old step son was a monster when I first met him aged 3. He was very violent and badly behaved. It has taken years of hard work but he is a very well adjusted and well behaved little boy now. What I found was a combination of things was causing his behaviour:

1) Diet.
He was eating a lot of processed food and eating crisps, fizzy drinks and lots of sweets and chocolate. I love to cook so I always try and give him home cooked meals now with plenty of 'slow calorie release' foods like vegetables, rice, pasta. Lots of good old fashioned 'one-pot' cooking, i.e. casseroles full of vegetables or roast dinners. This stopped his tantrums completely which I believed were linked to him having sugar highs and sugar lows during the day. He is only allowed sweets or chcolate at the weekend as a treat.

2) Anger.
He was very angry with himself over his biological father leaving him. He blamed himself and felt different to other children. I have talked to him abut this and made him realise I love him just as I would if he was biologically mine. The removal of this anger within himself has calmed him down a lot.

3)Discipline.
He needed some 'tough love' to be brutally honest. He had been wrapped in cotton wool by his family members and been spoilt rotten by them, always getting everything he wanted. Bad behaviour had always been rewarded by attention. I always ignored him completely if he behaved badly and gave him no attention. When he was good I rewarded him with hugs and treats. He was sent to his room for 1 minute for each year of his age if he was bad to think about what he had done. Eventually he learned there was indeed a line with us that must not be crossed. He is now much happier as he knows where he stands and always aims to please rather than hurt us.

It's been a hard slog with him but I am really proud of what he has become over the last 7 years. He is now a very happy boy. The teenage years will be with us in 3 years time. Now that will be the real test!


     
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06-06-2007, 10:20 AM
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i do concur year ten year old is a belting little lad and i am sure you will do just as good a job with the new addition.


     
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